We practice with the faith that as we do the repetitions, the body, mind, and heart learn. This practice of forgiveness comes in three parts: forgiveness from others, forgiveness for ourselves, and forgiveness for those who have hurt or harmed us. This is a deep, unfolding process that can take a lifetime to work through. Let your heart get some exercise in forgiveness. We start maybe with a couple of small barbells, and we work with those to get the muscle going. And then eventually it may be strong enough to take up heavier and heavier weights.
In the same way, with forgiveness practice, you may want to start small. Sit comfortably and allow the eyes to close and the breath to be natural and easy. Let the body and the mind relax. Feel your connection to the earth. Breathe gently into your whole body, especially into your heart. Let yourself feel the pain of keeping your heart closed. And I remember them now.
Ways that I have betrayed, abandoned, or caused suffering, knowingly or unknowingly, out of my pain, fear, anger, or confusion. See pain that you may have caused with your own fear and confusion. Sense that you can finally release this burden and ask for forgiveness. Take as much time as you need to picture the memory that burdens your heart.
I ask for your forgiveness. I have betrayed or abandoned myself many times in thought, word, or deed, knowingly or unknowingly. And extend forgiveness for each act of harm, one by one. I forgive myself. Remember them. Let yourself remember the ways that this may have been true for you, and feel the sorrow you have carried from the past. The point is to exercise in a very small way something that you think you are ready to forgive right now.
I have carried this pain in my heart long enough. To the extent that I am ready, I offer you forgiveness. You who have caused me harm, I offer my heartfelt forgiveness. Your ego might tell you that it does, but deep down in your heart you know that what you are doing is pretty crazy and disturbing. Forgive and forget, not for them, but for your own sake. Why spend your time thinking about something that would only attract more anger and drain you of your emotional, physical, and mental energy, ignoring all the beauty that is present in and all around you…? Let it go.
Detach yourself from it. Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten. After you write each question, try giving an honest answer to each and every one of them:. Who is the person that mistreated you?
Is it your mother, your father, your spouse, is it your child, your best friend, your neighbor your dog, your cat? Who is it? Do you think they did what they did just to hurt you? Do you think they did it on purpose?
Would you rather hold on to your anger than go back to being friends? Can you even remember how good it felt to be in their presence, to spend time with them?
Is it worth being upset? Is your ego really that big? What is your heart telling you to do? And then make a decision. You either choose to continue being friends with that person or not.
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Whatever your decision will be, you will eventually have to let go in order to be happy! Let go of that friendship, let go of the relationship you had with this person, let go of those past resentments, let go of the hate… let go of that person you once loved.
You will have to choose, and no matter what your choice would be, you will eventually free yourself. If you choose with your mind, who is so critical and judgmental, and most of the time telling you all kind of crazy things that would only attract even more anger and resentment upon you, you would probably have many regrets afterward.
Simplify your life! Listen to your mind but always follow your heart.
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Is there anyone in your life you feel that you have to forgive? You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below. When John and I were first married, things proved far more difficult than either of us had imagined. Shortly into our married life, we were blindsided by reality. Marriage, as much as it can be a well of deep joy, has a way of highlighting our deepest flaws.
This quickly became an issue for me. Early in my marriage, I became intimately aware of a number of areas where John needed significant growth—and I made it my mission to change him. I thought withholding forgiveness would motivate him into transformation, but it left him feeling condemned, hopeless, and disempowered. Everything changed when God showed me how He forgives.